All We Have Left: Dating Apps at the Forefront of the Loneliness Pandemic
The boom in isolated dating apps is no longer just a way to connect, but also an easy way to interact at a time when the coronavirus is causing millions of people to be alone. Rodrigo, 18, never thought about joining a dating app until months of boredom in isolation finally got him into action.
At the beginning, we told ourselves that the crisis would pass, that we just needed to be patient. But when the temporary becomes permanent, you have to try new things, he said. Due to the fact that school is mostly online and opportunities to meet friends were limited, I felt like I was spending my whole life with my parents.
Rodrigo now visits dating apps every day. More than just a pursuit of the thrill of dating, they’ve become a place to just hang out. According to him, he has made friends with four people his age through apps and communicates with them daily to relieve stress and frustration caused by the pandemic.
That’s all we have left, he sighs, especially after Portugal was once again isolated last month. Match, a group that includes several top apps such as Tinder, Hinge and Meetic, reports that it added over a million users in the last quarter of 2020, up about 12 percent to 11 million worldwide.
It sounds like a cliché, but the apps really didn’t let me drown, said Sebastian, a 19-year-old student from France. When we can’t go to college and the bars, restaurants and cinemas are closed, we spend whole days alone, stewing. This is terrible, he said.
Looking at a date
The exchange starts with text before moving on to video chats, a feature that is increasingly focusing on dating apps as the pandemic has ruled out the usual next step of physical dating. Martha, a 41-year-old Londoner, found dating Zoom tiring, even if it saves her the trouble of fiddling with perfume. The biggest problem I have with Zoom dating is how weird it is to watch you talk and laugh, she said.
She suspects that a lot of people felt the same way that a pandemic might actually be an opportunity to focus on meeting Mr. or Mrs. Wright, but somehow it’s harder to motivate myself when I don’t know when to meet them in person. when I can flirt and kiss.
Eventually Martha met someone. She’s not sure if this will last long, but it at least provided a little friendship during the dark winter months of UK’s long quarantine.
Others have achieved instant success
Ana, 31, a Spanish woman from Valladolid, took less than 24 hours to find someone on Tinder, and they’ve remained a couple ever since. By the end of 2020, I convinced myself to try it for a few days, while vowing that if talking made me uncomfortable or if I didn’t find the right shoes, I would drop them, she said.
On the other side of the world, in Tokyo, 32-year-old translator Ambroise is out of luck. Not wanting to risk dating in person, she says that after a while most of her connections fell apart, even if Tinder provided an outlet when her morale dropped.
I really have no hope (of finding love) on the internet, but there is no hope in real life, she said, adding that when she leaves the house, I wear a mask and often comfortable clothes without makeup. pandemic fashion!